How to ask a girl to dance

Facing a member of the opposite sex and asking her dance can be intimidating to man or boy. The possibility of a resounding “No” is enough to stop you in your tracks before the words “Would you like to dance?” can leave your mouth.

Learning a few simple steps on how to ask a girl to dance can lead the way to a positive outcome. Soon you’ll be dancing with the girl of your dreams.

Instructions

Step 1

Check your breath. Hopefully you brushed your teeth before the dance. Not sure how your breath really is? Ask a buddy--one who will be honest with you.

Step 2

Breathe. As a matter of fact, take several deep breaths and you’ll find that you feel calmer.

Step 3

Smile. A sincere smile works better than a panicked grin. If this is really a challenge for you, practice in front of the mirror.

Step 4

Approach the girl or woman with confidence. This means stand up straight, move slowly and purposefully, and establish eye contact as you approach.

Step 5

Introduce yourself. Keep it simple: “Hello, I’m ...” If you’ve met before but are not sure she’ll remember, help her out, “Hello, I’m ... We take history class together (or met at the art exhibit last week).”

Step 6

Ask her to dance. Practice these lines ahead of time. Practice them aloud, in front of a mirror so you can see what she sees. Remember the KISS principle (Keep it simple, stupid): “May I have this dance?” “Would you like to dance?” “Please dance with me.” Or, simply, “Dance?”

Step 7

If she says yes, offer her your hand and lead her onto the dance floor.

Step 8

If she says no, offer her an alternative such as simply chatting or going together to get a drink.

How not to ask a girl to dance

Hilarious crash and burn from the movie Bride & Prejudice

Things Needed

Smile

Pleasant breath

Basic dance skills

Tips & Warnings

Asking her to dance does not guarantee a “Yes”.

She may say “No”, for any number of reasons, some of them having nothing to do with you. Under no circumstances ask her why she won’t dance with you. However, you can say something like, “May I ask you to dance later?”

She may not want to dance, but may be willing to sit and talk with you.

Be sure you are familiar with at least the basics of dancing.

When the dance is over, return her to the same location where you first approached her. Do not desert her on the dance floor.

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